Sexual Pleasure Checklist

Sexual Rights

Affirms that every person, regardless of their age, has the right to enjoy the highest attainable standard of sexual well-being and sexual pleasure.

Addresses the specific challenges in enjoying sexuality and sexual relationships, for all (i.e. including young people with disabilities etc.).

Condemns any form of discrimination and unjust or unequal treatment / portrayal regarding sexual well-being and pleasure based on a person’s ethnicity, appearance, behaviour, gender or sexual identity characteristics, ability and including HIV status.

Affirms every human being's right to life, liberty and to be free from harm, which includes the right to express one's sexuality and gender free from coercion or violence.


Gender Equality

Addresses gender-based violence, specifically against girls and women; lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex people (LGBTI+); and anyone who does not conform to the existing norms.

Promotes equal relationships in the family and in working relationships.

Explains that same-sex sexual acts and all gender identities and expressions should be decriminalised.

Affirms that all genders and gender identities can express sexual desires and fantasies as long as they don't infringe on other people's rights and freedoms.

Affirms the right of all people, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity, to express and to make decisions about their sexuality privately.

Ensures that pleasure is addressed in a similar way as for girls and women as for other genders. Male sexuality is presented as nuanced and complex as female sexuality.
Resources: Love Matters, Body is Not an Apology


Sexual Positivity

Focuses on 5 circles of sexuality (intimacy, sensuality, sexual orientation / gender identity, sexual behaviour and practices, sexual and reproductive health) as essential aspects of everyone's private life.

Is explicit in face to face and written communication on sexual pleasure (e.g. showing clitoris, explaining masturbation, orgasm etc.), while noting that sexual pleasure is experienced differently for different people.

Promotes that people can freely express and explore their sexuality in a safe, healthy and pleasurable way.

Explains that safer sex and enjoyable sex are related. Ensures comprehensive quality and evidence-informed information on how sexual pleasure and acceptance /use of contraceptives are related.

Encourages dialogue between sexual partners, to talk about sexual pleasure and discuss what they want/don't want to happen during sex.

Explains that sexual interactions should only happen if both partners consent; one of the partners can stop consenting in the activity at any time. Provides guidance on how to give and retract consent by sharing tangible methods and examples to do so.

Includes areas of sexual pleasure in history taking.
Resources: Pleasure Meter

Explains sexual response during sexual abuse/rape.

Gives specific information/counselling on having pleasurable sex /enjoying sex after abortion, sexual violence and during infertility treatment.

Works to develop media literacy to critically evaluate media content especially in relation to porn and guides on safe use of social media including sexting and sharing explicit materials.
Media Literacy for youth: Let’s Talk Resources
Porn Literacy: Boston Public Health Commission on porn literacy, Teen Health Source Porn Literacy

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Sexual Rights

Uses unbiased and/or positive language when discussing sex, sexuality and sexual pleasure (e.g. having multiple partners instead of promiscuity).

Ensures that all recipients feel confident and free to express their sexuality.

Acknowledges that in different cultural contexts, pleasure, sexuality and relationships can be different. Works to ensure that the information and education on sexual pleasure is understandable in and adapted to different contexts (i.e. wording, language, imagery etc.).

Promotes critical thinking skills among recipients regarding gendered inequalities in society in regards to having pleasurable and/or enjoyable sex.


Gender Equality

Takes into account how the gender and age (as well as ethnicity, language, level of education) of the educator(s)/service provider(s) affect(s) the content and the interaction with recipients.

Ensures that the language used is gender inclusive and clear.

Addresses gender bias (conscious or unconscious) in communication on sexual pleasure and how (harmful) sexual norms are linked to gender stereotypes.

Ensures an empowering approach towards all genders with special attention towards those who are often marginalised in relation to sexuality (such as adolescent girls and young women, LGBTI+ and anyone who does not conform to the existing norms) to enjoy their sexuality.

Through value clarification workshops, providers/educators learn to be aware of their own feelings and prejudices regarding sexuality and sexual pleasure.


Sexual Positivity

Moves from a risk reduction approach to a pleasure positive approach in messaging, education and service delivery.

Makes a clear distinction between myths, facts and values in interactions with recipients.

Ensures that all recipients can freely express their views and needs regarding sexual pleasure without being stigmatised or ridiculed.

Uses interactive methods to promote exploration of personal values and critical thinking skills regarding sexual pleasure.

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Sexual Rights

Ensures adequate level of sexual rights related competencies (knowledge, skills and attitudes) among its staff at all levels, by facilitating continued capacity building, reflection and learning for staff/volunteers.

Internally encourages own staff to invest time, funding and human resources, to the greatest extent possible, to ensure staff strengthen their capacity to integrate sexual rights/sexual well-being in their activities. Then works to encourage other organisations to do the same by highlighting the value of doing so.

Ensures that advocacy initiatives focus on sexual well-being as a human right.

Encourages that organisations have an active inclusive/non-discriminatory recruitment process in place.

Has policies in place that prevent and addresses discrimination of people with different sexualities, preferences and gender identities.


Gender Equality

Ensures adequate level of gender equality related competencies (knowledge, skills and attitudes) among its staff at all levels, by facilitating continued capacity building, reflection and learning for staff/volunteers.

Ensures that there is support for LGBTI+ learners/staff/volunteers.

Treats all members of staff/volunteers in the same way, regardless gender or sexual identity.


Sexual Positivity

Ensures a sex positive approach in the profile of the organisation and within internal and external communication.

Ensures funding/support of research to showcase the benefits of a sex positive approach.

Includes sex positive and rights based attitudes as a requirement in the recruitment process of new CSE staff by including sex-positive interview questions, sex-positivity as part of job descriptions and having introduction trainings for new staff and volunteers, etc.

Ensures an adequate level of competencies (knowledge, skills and attitudes) on the sex positive non-discriminatory approach among its staff at all levels, by facilitating continued capacity building, reflection and learning for staff/volunteers.

Is committed to advocate for SRHR organisations to establish sex positive, rights-based programmes as the organisation’s minimum standard.

Supports/initiates research to showcase the importance of addressing sexual well-being/pleasure for general health and well-being.

Promotes core funding of the sexual well-being perspective into all programmatic areas and research/ funding proposals.

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